Monday, May 7, 2012

人生除了成功富庶,更重要是活出意义

文章标题:人生除了成功富庶,更重要是活出意义
文章作者:潘丽萍
发表日期:2012年3月6日
发表媒体:《我报My Paper

  最近,我在国会上询问,我们是否能说服最高收入的国人,多付出一些税务,共同分担责任,照顾社会上的弱势群体。

  我能谅解政府理性的反应, 那就是:不。

  一个存在的现实是, 如果政府要有能力的人才缴付更高的税务,他们可能不愿肩负起更大的责任,更糟的是,这些人才可能会离开新加坡,到税务比较低的地方去发展。

  这种情况不禁让我深思,人生的目标到底是什么?

人生的3个阶层

  我在著名的策略家及作家华理克博士(Rick Warren)的著作中学到,人生中有3个层次:

层次①:挣扎求存(Survival)

  在挣扎求存这个层次里的人,可能每天都在为下一餐有没有着落而担心。他们也可能流离失所,又或者担忧会失去栖身之处。世界上,平均每天只靠2美元(约2.50新元)过活的人,占了很大的一个比率。

  许多新加坡人并不生活在这个最低的层次。当然,也有一些国人在夹缝中生活,勉强度日。

  政府与社会人士有责任为他们编织一张安全网,在适当的时候给予他们生活上的 技能,让他们可以晋升到另一个层次,过更好的生活。

层次②:成功富庶(Success)

  多数的新加坡人都属于成功富庶的层级。他们有得上学,接受教育,找得到安稳的工作,拥有组屋,偶尔会出国旅游度假。他们的孩子有机会接受好的教育。他们居住的房子里,有电视、冰箱、冷气和其他奢侈品。

  成功富庶这个层次里的人,拥有高技能,赚取高收入,时常出国。这也包括了继承丰厚家产的人士。

层次③:活出意义(Significance)

  最高的一个层级是“活出意义”的境界。华理克博士建议,人生,要活到最有意义的境界,就应该从这个“成功富庶”的层级,更上一层楼,到达“活出意义” 的层次。

  意义,并不仅只是思考“靠什么来生活”,而是思考“生活为的是什么”。

  在这个层级,你开始为你和家人以外的人,贡献出你的资源,你的时间、才华、金钱、资产等等。

  英国前首相邱吉尔说过:你靠你所得到的东西来生活,你靠你所付出的东西来塑造人生。(You make a living by what you get; you make a life by what you give.)

囚犯一无所有, 也可彼此友爱

  不过我相信,一个人无论是在挣扎求存的层级,或是成功富庶的层级,都可以选择晋升到“活出意义”的层次。

  心理学家法兰柯(Victor Frankl),在他的著作《活出意义》(Man’s Search for Meaning)中写说,他亲眼目睹集中营里的一些囚犯一无所有,没有任何物质上的东西可以跟人分享,但他们仍然可以关心和帮助他人。

  我认识一些乐龄居民,他们住在租赁组屋,并不富裕,但他们却能付出时间,天天到附近的乐龄活动中心帮忙。

  我也认识一名政要的夫人,虽然是日理万机的女企业家,平日非常忙碌,但她从不吝啬于付出时间和精力,帮助穷人和残疾人士。

  在我的慈善机构, 一位澳州籍的医药顾问关了她位于乌节路、非常赚钱的诊所,来帮我带领一群心理学家和治疗师,致力于改善新加坡的特别教育。

  这些都是付出自己的时间和才能,选择“活出意义”的例子。

  你作出你的选择了吗?

翻译/《我报》翻译组
(英文原文可在潘丽萍女士的Facebook以及《我报》的Facebook上阅读)


(附上潘丽萍Facebook上的英文原稿)

3 Levels of Living: Survival, Success and Significance

Recently, I asked in Parliament if the highest income earners in our country could be persuaded to pay a little more tax to co-share the responsibility of looking after the less privileged in society.

I can understand the rational "no" response.

Indeed, it is a sad reality that Governments run the risk that when they tax capable talents higher, the latter may become demotivated to take on bigger responsibilities and worse, take flight and move to more tax-friendly countries.

The episode caused me to reflect about the purpose of life.

Let me share one perspective here.

I recall learning from authors such as Rick Warren about the 3 levels of living life - the Survival level; the Success level; and the Significance level.

SURVIVAL

At the Survival level, people worry about when their next meal will come. They may be homeless or concerned about losing the roof over their head. There is a high percentage of people in the world who live on an average of US$2/- a day.

Now, many people in Singapore do not live at this level. However, there may be some who fall through the cracks and are barely surviving. It is the duty of the government and fellow citizens to do our best to build a social safety net to catch them and where appropriate, equip them so they can move to a better level.

SUCCESS

Most people in Singapore live at the Success level. They attend schools, secure jobs, own a flat and travel occasionally for holidays. Their children receive decent education and their homes are equipped with TVs, fridges, air-conditioning and other luxuries.

At the highest end of Success are those who are highly skilled, globally mobile and very well-paid. Then there are those who have inherited or accumulated a lot of wealth.

However, to live life at one’s highest potential, Warren and others suggested that people should move from success to significance.

SIGNIFICANCE

Significance, they say, is when you don’t simply live ON something, but to live FOR something. It is when you start giving your resources – your time, talent, money and other assets – to do things for others beyond yourself and your family. It is what ex-UK Prime Minister Winston Churchill said, “You make a living by what you get; you make a life by what you give.”

However, I personally believe that whether one is living in survival or success mode, one can still choose to be significant.

Victor Frankl, in his book, Man's Search for Meaning, recorded acts of kindness even amongst prisoners who had nothing to give.

I met several elderly volunteers, even if they are themselves living in rental flats, gave their time to help other members of the nearby Senior Citizens' Activity Centre.

The wife of a political leader I know, despite her very busy schedule as a corporate honcho, never fails to respond promptly with her time and money to appeals to help the disabled and poor.

One Australian consultant closed her lucrative Orchard Road clinic to help me lead a team of psychologists and therapists to improve the special education landscape of Singapore.

All the above are examples of people who chose to give away their time and talent – to live at the Significance level.

The question is - have we made a choice?

Denise Phua Lay Peng
5 March 2012

Friday, May 4, 2012

Life lessons that speak to the heart

文章标题:Life lessons that speak to the heart
文章作者:Geoff Tan
发表日期:2012年5月4日
发表媒体:《我报My Paper

American award-winning author and Pulitzer Prize finalist Regina Brett has taught me a lot about life through her column titled 50 Life Lessons, which was published in The Plain Dealer – a Cleveland, Ohio newspaper – in 2006.

Her article is so popular that bloggers the world over have reposted her sayings.


I’d like to share with you the ones that struck a chord with me. Take this: “Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.” This is a timely reminder to us all not to focus on work at the expense of our health.

And this:”Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.” I have experienced much-needed release on the occasions when I confided in a good friend who journeyed with me through some of my life’s most difficult moments.

“Don’t compare your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.” This reminds me of the story of a man who complained he had no shoes, until he ran into someone who had no legs.

“Time heals almost everything. Give time time.” In this world of instant gratification, patience does not feature strongly as a virtue. We seem to want everything immediately.

However, when we are dealing with pain, there is no quick fix – searching for one may lead us onto the path of alcohol and drugs.

Brett wrote: “Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.” Coveting what others have places undue stress on us. Isn’t it better to live within our means?

“If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.” Let’s all learn to be more appreciative of what we have been blessed with.

My favourites are the ones that are written tongue-in-cheek. Take this: “Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save them for a special occasion. Today is special.”

And this: “Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.” And I can certainly relate to it when she wrote: “Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.”

There are so many gems in her column that it’s worth taking the time to ponder each of them.

My parting words are from her list, too: “No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.” Have a great day!

The writer is a senior vice-president of Singapore Press Holdings’ marketing division.

Regina Brett's 45 life lessons and 5 to grow on

文章标题:Regina Brett's 45 life lessons and 5 to grow on
文章作者:Regina Brett
发表日期:2006年5月28日
发表媒体:The Plain Dealer

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here's an update:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift.

Friday, April 13, 2012

实现优质民主的关键

文章标题:实现优质民主的关键
文章作者:霍韬晦
发表日期:2012年4月13日
发表媒体:《联合早报•言论》

  一个月前,我曾经为文指出:香港的核心价值不只是由西方移稙过来的自由、民主、人权、平等、法制、公正、多元、包容……还有中国传统社会流传下来的勤奋、守法、乐观、宽恕、仁爱、坚忍、自我要求、自尊自重、居安思危等等。正是这些价值,才使得香港人在战后物资极度缺乏,又无政府资助的情形下,咬紧牙根把香港建设成一座繁荣的现代都市。

  事实上,上述这些西方核心价值是在上世纪80年代后,英国殖民政府準备撒离时才刻意播下的。从动机上看固然可疑,从时间上看对香港的经济起飞亦非积极因素;反而在推行民主、人权之后,党派、财团利益的争夺浮上水面,社会分化日趋严重,争吵无日无之,内部裂痕扩大,整体质素不断向下流动。

  现在还有许多人怀念狮子山下精神,此即能处逆境、痛苦不吭、积极进取、守望相助的精神。这些绝对是中国传统文化的优秀部分,不只香港人具备,世界各地华人都具备。所谓刻苦耐劳,勤俭成家,早已被公认。

  问题是这些传统价值,今天可能已经不合时宜。有人认为:这是农业时代、工业时代需要密集劳动的价值观,今天已是网络时代、智力时代,大家所看重的是舒适、自由、个人化、丰盛生活,不可能再那么刻苦,所以向财团、向政府、向国家,争回自己的利益很重要,社会分配的公平很重要,个人的权利很重要。

  价值观有没有历史背景?有些有,有些没有。例如民主与人权,便是时代的产物。如果当时不是面对欧洲的专制社会,一直讲“君权神授”,国王权力无限,危害到其他阶层的利益,怎会有民主产生?所以当生产力提升,新兴的资产阶级和旧有的贵族便联合起来保护自己的利益。思想家亦重新反省统治权力的来源,于是出现霍布士和洛克的人权理论,把马丁•路德的“在上帝之前人人平等”变为“在法律之前人人平等”,政府依从人民的意愿来制定法律,依法治国。洛克的民主政府设想很好,可惜太简单,以为人人都有天赋人权,在政治上以选票使用此权力就是“主”。其实天赋人权的论证很有问题,洛克的“自然权利”(natural rights)只是一种假设,在实践上如何可以无伤害地行使权力,也未有深入思考。

自由原是劣义

  依据西方思想史,人的图像受基督教《圣经》影响,人是罪人。人的罪正在他误用了上帝给予他的自由。在此关键时刻,自由是劣义,是犯罪的根由,所以人应忏悔,把自由的权利退还给上帝,做上帝的子民。洛克没有深究自由的本质,便立即赋予人有行使自由的神圣权利,不是太草率了吗?继之而起的亚当•史密斯进一步确认自由是活化市场的动力,是市场的无形之手。说穿了,就是贪婪。

  贪财也好,贪色也好,贪名也好,贪权也好,都是以自我利益为中心的。在人类长期的历史中,无论东西,都知道不能让它恣虐,何况合理化?但资本主义的自由市场就是靠这个来滚动,把人权观念提上殿堂。人权观念包庇下的自由就真的“自由”了,作主了。

  究竟什么是“主”?南唐中主词云:“风里落花谁是主?”毛泽东亦有“问苍茫大地,谁主沉浮?”之句。前者无奈,后者有霸气。“山登绝顶我为峰”,闻者失色。不知就里的,很容易与“朕即国家”(路易十四语)相并。这个主,是不是凌驾于所有人头上的“主”呢?

  出于恐惧,对“主”的权力必须有所限制。不只对统治者,对所有的自由人也一样。从社会角度,也就是对人的贪婪有所限制。在西方,此即法制观念和三权分立的政制之所由生。个人自由不能无限扩大,在满足个人欲望的同时必须考虑及正义问题,包括对别人权利的尊重与社会整体利益的维护。若分配所得距离悬殊,造成不公平的社会,必然有反抗,甚至动乱,最后大家都要偿付代价。

  在这里我们可以发现人权观念的内在矛盾:一是自由,二是自由的限制。前者与贪婪无分别,用之可以启动市场,获得财富与权益;后者却要收歛、守法、压抑它的过度活跃。这中间的界线难订,所以需要法律介入,以保证公正。法律具有终极的神圣性,因为它的基础就是人权法,保护每一个人的自由,也就是保护每一个人的主权,让他成为一个“主”。

  西方的这一个体制,一般称为民主宪政,但我们可以看到其根基仍有缺陷:就是作为核心观念的人权,其内涵尚未厘清,其本质尚未深究。建立在基督教原罪观念下的人性固然负面,即使建立在近代心理学的本能观念下的人性也非常不安全。源头不正,即使以法律防护也无用。道高一尺,魔高一丈,何况赋予魔鬼以自由呢?主,究竟在现实生活中,谁为“主”?

  最近中国国内有学者提出儒家宪政,主张要仿效当年公羊学家为国家立法,把儒家提升为国教,其情可悯,但想法却与时代背道而驰。政教合一的时代固然过去,一家独大的主张也会使自己陷于孤立。真正要为儒学谋出路,不是站在儒者的立场上想,而是要站在别人的立场上想。民主能够成为潮流必有其因,民主之不足还需要当代学者措意。我之所以提出“优质民主”,正是要以东方的人性观念来化解西方人性中之恶。釜底抽薪,才是正本清源之道。在此,儒学不须成为国家的意识形态,但却是民主宪政的前提。社会质素要提升,只有先把人教养好。移风易俗,变化气质,不是不可能。在这方面,东方传统绝对可以发挥贡献。换言之,不是权利问题,而是义务问题、生命的成长问题、对生命更高价值的觉醒问题。

  至于如何实践,则有待另文。

作者是香港学人、东方人文学院院长、新加坡东亚人文研究所所长

Friday, March 16, 2012

香港的核心价值有待深思

文章标题:香港的核心价值有待深思
文章作者:霍韬晦
发表日期:2012年3月15日
发表媒体:《联合早报•言论》

  香港正在进行特首选举,参选人几乎都毫无例外地说要守护香港的核心价值,并且指出香港的核心价值就是自由、民主、法治、人权、平等、公正、多元、包容等。从历史上看这些其实都是从西方移植过来的价值,也是现代社会所公认的价值,并不能算是香港所特有或对香港发展发挥过重要作用的价值。而且,上述的这些价值有许多已在蜕变中,甚至转为负面,要将之奉为核心,必须深思。

  例如自由,这的确是人类社会最珍贵的价值,人人向往,人人争取。既然人人都向往,这显示了自由的普遍性,为什么还要争取呢?洛克认为自由是天赋人权,卢梭认为人是生而自由的,但现实上却是“无时不在枷锁之中”。在长久的人类历史中,自由为什么会失去?归结就是政府体制和法律的不公正,它所保护的是统治阶层的利益,所以这才爆发民主革命(如法国大革命)。

  民主作为新的价值观念登场,它以人权作基石,重新保护人的自由。自由就是人权的核心内容,在资本主义之下,人有权争取自己利益之最大化。资本主义经济能够飞跃发展,所凭借的正是这种自由。不过,时至今日,资本主义的发展已到濒危阶段,制造出极尖锐的社会矛盾:贫富悬殊,1% Vs 99%。原来号称公平的自由主义社会变成极不公平的利益对立,可见这种“自由”有其偏差,亦有其不足。

  为什么?就是因为这种“自由”只是人人有权膨胀其物质欲望、财富欲望的自由。正如亚当•史密斯所说:“人人都关心他自己的利益”,视之为理所当然;在民主社会,更视为一种权利,没有什么不对。写《正义论》的罗尔斯(J. Rawls)大声疾呼“个人权利优先于善”,意思就是不能因社会的共同利益(善)而牺牲个人的选择,但这公平吗?当社会整体受损害,个人的自由能继续下去吗?政府要采取行动吗?要制订政策吗?

  忠实的自由主义者诺锡克(R. Nozick)认为个人权利绝不可以牺牲,所以政府的功能必须加以限制。资本主义虽然造成贫富悬殊,但只要合符市场交易原则,便是正义,政府无权从中置喙,更不应干扰。至于什么是市场的交易原则?便是买卖双方洽商同意,你情我愿。俗语说:“一个愿打、一个愿挨”,旁人管不了。

自由的堕落

  在这种市场观念下,社会出现许多怪现象。只要有钱赚,什么模式都可以允许。不要说性交易、娼妓可以合法化,少女援交、短期夫妇、伴游女郎、卖精、代孕……还有许多一般人想不出的花招都会陆续登场。

  造成这种现象的另一个原因是人的自然欲望,即所谓现实人性。在物质诱惑下、在社会环境影响下、在教育失职下,人的贪婪和自我求满足的心理都像洪水般决堤而出。人权和自由的核心价值对此不但没有丝毫阻截作用,反而推波助澜,成为帮凶。至于商业上的犯罪、欺骗、隐瞒、造假、中饱私囊,政治上的造谣、抹黑、恶意攻击、制造绯闻、煽动群众情绪,以人权法掩护言论自由,就更普遍了。

  这就是自由的堕落。法治虽然能起一种防卫作用,但这作用毕竟是消极性的。它最先的提出,就是为了防止个人自由的无止境的泛滥。海耶克(Hayek)说,必须有限制性的原则来防止个人自由的最大化,这是“必要的强制”(海耶克著《自由宪章》第一章))。但这样,作为执法机构的政府就要介入,目的就是维持正义与公平。时至今日,政府的手愈伸愈长,几乎什么都管。结果不只是管治成本大增,官员疲于奔命,更严重的是政府在两面夹击之下,根本难有作为。所谓法治,亦因为追不上现实需要,必须不断立法立例以堵塞漏洞,结果一定造成法律条文的繁琐化和诉讼费用的沉重负担。沿此趋势发展下去,不只小政府的理念无法实现,更大的问题是资源的消耗和内耗。

香港的核心价值与中国文化有关

  通过上述简单的分析,可见香港社会的核心价值其实是现代社会的核心价值的反映:从自由起,一环扣一环,成为结构性的系列。我们不是要反对它;事实上它们的问题已经摆在那里,而且牵动着社会。问题是:香港人要不要认识香港?知道香港的优点;通过香港的历史,明白香港成功的因素,以继承香港的特殊价值。试想香港人在过去一百五十年,没有政府与外力的资助,竟然能够兴盛起来;香港的文化(如电影、音乐、文学、学术,都出现过不少大师)一直影响着东南亚、台湾和全球华人地区,其中所依赖的不是香港的核心价值是什么?因此,我们不能简单地把香港归属于西方现代社会,作为他们其中的一个城市(当然也不能简单地归属于现代中国)。至少香港的成功,是多年来,除了英国的统治模式外,还有中国人勤奋、守法、任劳任怨、自我要求、自我磨练、自我创造、决不把希望寄托于别人,包括政府身上。从某一意义上论,这也就是所谓狮子山下的精神,其实是中国文化的精神,能处逆境、能处忧患,有韧力,有生命力,痛苦不吭,乐观、宽恕、仁爱、永远向前、积极进取……这些,难道不是香港的核心价值吗?香港赖以有今天,究竟是谁的功劳?

  自由不只是自我权利的充分使用,还要看到此权利的限制与对别人、对社会、对整体的影响与伤害。讲法律守护不如讲人的修养,珍惜自己的人格,胸襟与气度。这是做人的核心价值,难道香港人要丢掉它吗?

  当代社会的核心价值有些的确有普遍性,但既然说香港,那么就要有香港性,不能抽离香港的时空,更不能抽掉香港一百多年来深藏于香港人血脉中的中国文化因素。若放弃这价值,香港人赖以建立、赖以奋斗的精神力量就会失去,香港的凝聚力也会化为乌有。你看今天正在进行中的特首选战,双方所使用的手段不是太可怕吗?全无原则的砍杀,结果只有全输。为了赢,什么核心价值都没有了!如果说,这就是民主,那么香港作了很恶劣的示范。

作者为新加坡东亚人文研究所所长,香港东方人文学院院长